I actually really love it when someone remembers small details and quirks about me or addresses me by my name at unexpected times like at the end of a sentence and I don’t know why but I just really, really do.
I think misogynists are constantly saying “I’m a nice guy.“ “I’m such a nice guy.“ “I’m not like that, I’m a nice guy!” for the same reason that Fox News feels compelled to remind their viewers that they are “fair and balanced” literally every 3 minutes.
Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”
and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”
and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.